I remember the times when matchmaking was my passion, I get excited because I feel like I am being able to help someone. So what were the things that I had to consider? The age, the type of man/woman, family background and the personality. But the ultimate is the culture about the “tsiong” which means the 3-6-9 year age gap is a thing to consider among the Filipino Chinese. That’s why in time I have tried to experiment with regards to matching the right numbers. But sadly, only God knows the answer to every question about the real deal. I have lots of guy friends who keep on asking why it doesn’t work while others do. They keep on dating for the wrong reasons that’s why they can’t seem to find the one. I would like to share to you a story of a guy friend who nearly had a good experience with a new found lady but stopped relating with her because of the known  culture that she didn’t have the right animal sign to complement him. It is such a sad revelation that Filipino Chinese singles continue to follow the tradition of animal signs and “tsiong.”  It remains a mystery on how we can manage our lives with faith and love. Is it because we love our parents so much that since they value the “Chinese culture”, we try to follow their ideals? Do we still believe in idealistic or reality of love? Or is everything just based on practicality and convenience? Is the basis of love just the spark? Or is about the the same future goals? I have begun to realize that only God can help us with regards to choosing the right mate. Our culture will always be part of us. But as singles we have to widen our preference and see that our lives should not be dictated by culture alone but by the faith that in time, we will see love in God’s timing. Continue reading →

Hi, fellow Pengyows. Ni hao? After a time of rest, lying low in the social scene and introspecting. Here I am coming back in your midst once again. There have been things that I have been musing, experiences that brought me to realization. Friendships that went another way, relationships that gave scars. It is a matter of process. A lot of people have been asking why, no event this year? Everybody enjoyed my event and there even had friendships that blossomed to committed relationships. It is really my happiness to have helped people. That’s why I am planning a new project soon for singles. I recently started a project of personality development for Filchi singles. I am having one on one sessions on how to look well, find oneself’s identity, knowing who to attract and the purpose of looking for the right person. With the increase of single Filchis, it is a matter of questioning why, we can’t find the one. I can say that every experience has a lesson. It may be hard to swallow at first the rigid reality of relating but in time, God lets us see the wisdom in it. Until then, Pengyow. God bless.